I have done a lot of opening up recently and in writing my recent musing ‘Learning To Open Up: Letting Down The Barriers’ I felt an immense sense of relief and support from the crazy awesome work that is The Blogosphere. I am a bit late in this weeks musing and within it are the reasons why…
As part of my quest to inspire Mamas to realise their potential to rock Mamahood whilst still being able to retain their own self identity and individuality, I started an interview series where I share the stories of fellow ‘Rockin’ Mamas’. I have been lucky enough to interview amazing Mama bloggers too like Honest Mum and Lauren from Dilan and Me and today I am sharing with you another truly inspirational Mama blogger who has turned her love for lipstick into a career; Sophia aka Tattooed Tealady.
When I was sent a press release for the memoir of Patricia Gachagan, ‘Born Together’, I was compelled to invite her to be interviewed in this series of Rockin’ Mamas as her story could be uplifting and empowering for Mothers everywhere. Patricia has shared her incredible journey through Motherhood with Multiple Sclerosis and has been amazing enough to talk a little to us about her struggle and fight and about her story ‘Born Together’.
As you may know if you follow my blog, I run Rock and Roses Mama alongside working part time in Retail Management; I know a lot of Mothers strive for this balance but believe me the struggles of a woking Mom are harsh… My ‘working Mother’ story is a little long winded so today I am sharing it with you in the hope that it will inspire other Mothers to share their story and provide clarity in the Mothering community.
So International Womens Day has crept up on me this year and I have been thinking about how I can show my support and promote this years theme #beboldforchange when I realised I already do; by buying from independent businesses that are run by women, predominantly Mothers, and promoting their incredibly unique and empowering products. So I thought I would take this opportunity to share my most recent favourites with you all so that you too can support businesses run by women and #beboldforchange.
So you want to know how to banish the stabbing Mom Guilt with some easy peasy and uplifting tips? I know we’ve all been there; we all as Mothers feel that horrifying pang of self doubt and guilt that we are not doing the best we can or that we are not doing things right. But what is ‘right’ and what is our ‘best’? Is it the ‘perfect Mummy’ image that we see so often plastered around television and magazines? Is it that we feel we don’t spend enough time with our children and we feel guilty for being working Mums or, god forbid, wanting some time to ourselves, going to work or wanting to eat our dinner/drinking our tea while it is still hot!? Parenting is super tough… it is hands down one of the toughest things about being human; bringing another life into the world and then teaching them everything you know and trying to ensure they are the very best human being they can possibly be. Thats an awful lot of pressure on us SO… *waves magic wand* here are some tips to save yourself from the guilt that plagues us all as Mothers.
I have previously mused, if you will, about my quandary with the whole ‘working Mom’ thing as I believe that we are pulled in all sorts of directions and made to believe and also made to feel guilty with all sorts of ‘Motherhood’ ideals. In one instance the government seem to want us to work and we undoubtedly get judged for being Stay at home Moms’ by the general public… then on the other hand we are not given the chance to work in some instances as we are not deemed ‘flexible’ enough or wanting a firm ‘career’. As Mother Pukka has awesomely campaigned in an ongoing trail blaze, it is the employers that need to be flexible. Her ‘Flex Appeal’ campaign has brought widespread media attention and even the ante ion of the government. You go girl! I feel though, that the flexibility of society is needed also in the corners that we think would be supportive of the working mother, the NHS. Yes… Im going there. Is society, and the NHS, really built for working Moms?
This is the firm reason I started blogging in the first place and the purpose of my blog if you will; affirming in all Mommas that you don’t have to let parenting take over your life. You are your own fabulous person and you and your child and everyone around you will be amazed to watch you flourish and rock this parenting shindig while letting yourself shine through. Don’t let the label ‘Mom’ or ‘Dad’ take over ‘YOU’.
So I know there are a lot of you out there who don’t buy in to the whole ‘Valentines Day’ thing, and I have to agree that it is far too commercialised, red and plastic heart orientated; but there is some good that can come of its celebration. Love. And free chocolates of course! Now what I also know, is that you should show love and appreciation all year through; however what is the harm in having a day where you get the prerogative to just spoil yourself and your other half with some well earned adoration? Maybe you are trying to impress someone you are not yet in a relationship with, but are simply admiring. If your parents then it is vital to spend time as a couple, getting back to basics; Valentines Day provides a non excusable opportunity to reignite the spark! So if you need some inspiration… here is my favourite things to do and gift in my ONE… and ONLY (not now Chesney…) Rockin’ Valentines Guide.
There is a time in every Mothers life when the daily moment of solace then we call ‘nap time’ will come to an end. So I plead with you to cherish it with all of your being while it is still an entity in your household. I have unfortunately fallen victim to the death of ‘nap time’ and for this I am currently in mourning (I will talk about this in my weekly musing) but today I am reaching out to you to encourage, no implore, you to cherish your child’s nap time with these useful tips.
I have always been partial to a diary; I tend to try not to use digital means too frequently for my day to day activities, just list making. No, your day to day life needs a good ol’ fashioned diary and so in contrary to previous years I sought out to find a ‘family’ diary that would help me organise my growing family and busy lifestyle. I had a look at a few styles but the exceptional reviews steered me towards the MUM’s Office brand. I ordered a snazzy burn orange number and waited impatiently for the post man to bring me my epic tool for rocking 2017 and truly getting organised.
So a new year has begun, and what do we do now? You’ve de-Christmassed, made the living room look fresh, tidy and de-cluttered, finally got rid of all the lingering Christmas rubbish and are faced with the one thing that you cannot seem to get rid of: Christmas food! You feel like a stuffed turkey yourself but still the festive feast continues as you try and clear the leftover ham, trimmings, chocolate (OH the chocolate never ends…) from your cupboards and fridge so as not to be wasteful. The general feeling at this time of year for us most is one of bloated guilt and it leaves us craving vegetables and making all sorts of crazy and frankly unachievable New Years Resolutions relating to insane diets and exercise regimes that never make it past February.