Do you find yourself in a slob like state when you have told yourself to have a ‘stress free day of doing nothing’ but then feel even more tired and lethargic? Do you feel like make stress is good for keeping yourself organised and on top of your game? So every week, as my regular readers will know, I post a *Musing* that I have been pondering at the time, and where at times they might touch upon issues that are affecting our country at the time or personal struggles that I am facing myself (Last weeks saw an amazing response so thank you so much if you had a read of ‘Learning to Open Up; Letting Down Barriers’), this week I am debating a issue that I think affects everyone at some point and definitely Mothers.
So as some of my more regular readers and Instagram followers may already be aware of… this little fam have been on a bit of an emotional rollercoaster recently. Yes from the outside and fleeting glimpses it may seem like our life has been at an all time high; Our Wedding Day was spectacular, we recently went on our Honeymoon and I have been remaining a strong Mama by seeing friends, finding time for myself and hoping to inspire empowerment in the Motherhood community. However behind the scenes we have been dealing with demons and although I have briefly touched upon how this has made me feel, I have not opened up about the cause of these feelings. Well ladies and gents… today is that day.
So lets just be honest here… unless you gave birth, became filled with baby, got engaged or married, been offered your dream job or anything of that joyful ilk… 2016 has been a pretty abysmal year for us all here in the UK hasn’t it? I mean Brexit… come on guys! What were you all thinking! Actually… for those who reside in the good ol’ US of A it has been even worse, at least we don’t have a clueless, fame seekingly obnoxious, orange clown leading our country down a dark, dark path of madness. The celebrity deaths and political insanity have meant that this year has been pretty rubbish to say the least. Only one good thing has come of this year, which has led to many good things…
So as you who follow me know I only started blogging about three months ago. I was totally unaware of what I was getting into, I just knew a few things; I love writing, I would love to be able to write for a living and I am passionate about Mamas not losing who they are. When I started blogging and plucked up the courage to send my first post in to the depths of the world wide web I was completely unaware of the community I had entered. As I began learning about linkies, Twitter chats, networks and conferences etc I was utterly blown away by the support and encouragement I was given every day. So this post is to say thank you to The Blogosphere.
I wanted to start posting roundups of our past months in pictures. So here is the first of my new monthly series: it is a good one to start with as Autumn has so much to offer a Mama (Who doesn’t love walking through a sea of spicy orange pumpkins and indulging in the occasional leaf crunch?!)
So today ladies and gents… I am extraordinarily tired. I am tired of working from 6am every morning, I am tired from having appointments and meetings after work each day and I am tired of having no food in the house as it is the week before payday (Thankfully my man is amazing in every way and has been supplying me with chocolate and Oreo donuts to make me smile – yes they DO make those!) I don’t know about you but when I feel this deflated with the struggles and time juggling of Mum life, it comes hand in hand with feeling as though I am exhibiting terrible parenting when not having the cheerful ‘Barbie doll smile’
In previous posts about why I started Rock and Roses Mama and reviewing breaks aways and date nights with my man, I have mentioned the importance of investing time in your relationship after becoming a parent. I thought I would write in a little more depth about why I feel this is of such importance, as it really is… important.
Ok… so hold your breath peeps… drums roll please… I did it! I am no longer a Vlog virgin. I never ever thought I would and didn’t think it was at all my thing but I quite enjoyed it. Not being able to edit or re-record certain parts is a terrifying thought when you begin… its all or nothing! But I had fun and really enjoyed answering these questions, so thank you to Charlie at Mess and Merlot for nominating me to answer Vogue’s 73 Questions, her Vlog for this is also her first and is super awesome and the reason I took the plunge to try it out for myself! Check it!
So without further ado…
In line with last weeks ‘Let it go Moments’, this week I have been long suffering with the common cold much like my previously ‘man flu’ afflicted partner. My second Elsa, break out into song on a mountain top, moment is one Im sure all parents of toddlers (or any age little cherubs for that matter – cherub is used very loosely here) will relate to; all eyes on you and what does the little one do? Commence a classic QUEEN worthy ‘I want to break free’ session of feral madness.
So this week the Mr and I went on a lush little mini break and left the small man in the house with Boushka (my aptly named, Kate Bush loving mama) And as the reason for our mini break was the Mr’s Birthday we have been super busy since we’ve been back home and haven’t had much of a chance to actually just sit and chill! My ‘let it go moments’ this week are therefore themed on being outside the home as, like I’m sure most mommas, things can get quite stressful when you are out with a toddler!
So this week has seen every single on of the household ill at some point and have been busy bees with appointments left right and centre for dentists, doctors, health visitors etc… but on the plus side me and the Mr have now got a luscious whole week off together and are off to Manchester tomorrow for a mini break. Bliss.
So Im sure all of you have seen the massive ‘Flex Appeal’ campaign that Mother Pukka has started with ‘Work that Works’ at Digital Mums helping shift the ways of working for pregnant and returning to work moms; if you haven’t go check it out she is doing marvellous things and really raising awareness of some pretty shocking stats. It is a topic very close to my heart and affecting brilliant mommas around me.