However many times you have been pregnant I think there are alway going to be slight differences , but between your very first and your second those differences seem to be more apparent and much more major. From the differences in your own body and how it copes the second time round, to your lifestyle through a second pregnancy; there are some major things that come as quite a surprise when you initially think “Oh I’ve done this before I know what to expect”!
Now before I begin I have realised this may come across as a negative or warning post of some sort; but that was not my intention! I have just found that there are some major differences I had not considered… but in no way does it lessen the magic of having a second child!
Mothers Day is on the horizon, so what do Mothers REALLY want? The answer: A break, a happy family day out wth no tears, a clear mind, a tidy house, an interrupted bath, a day to herself. I think what Mothers REALLY want this Mothers Day is not so much the flowers, the chocolate, the cards (however nice and thoughtful they can be)… it is simply a day just for her; I mean isn’t that the reason its called Mothers Day?
Here are some ideas, if your struggling to grasp the concept, of how this could be achieved; Mama Guilt free might I add! YOU DESERVE IT, so stop telling yourself for whatever reason you do not!
Its a pretty tough road, Motherhood, but there are so many reasons why every Mama needs to know that they ARE in fact NAILING Motherhood; however much it feels like you are failing miserably.
There are days where you may feel like you are staring into a deep, black abyss and every other Mother around you seems to be keeping a swan-like grace; but trust me below the water we are all flapping our feet, crazily trying to stay afloat!
I think that however Insta-Perfect everyone, including yourself sometimes, may seem, it is OK to be vulnerable and let your troubles be known because despite them… you are doing an amazing job! Every Mama needs a little boost and so I came up with 11 of them to cheer your soul on those dark days…
As you may know if you follow my blog, I run Rock and Roses Mama alongside working part time in Retail Management; I know a lot of Mothers strive for this balance but believe me the struggles of a woking Mom are harsh… My ‘working Mother’ story is a little long winded so today I am sharing it with you in the hope that it will inspire other Mothers to share their story and provide clarity in the Mothering community.
I have previously mused, if you will, about my quandary with the whole ‘working Mom’ thing as I believe that we are pulled in all sorts of directions and made to believe and also made to feel guilty with all sorts of ‘Motherhood’ ideals. In one instance the government seem to want us to work and we undoubtedly get judged for being Stay at home Moms’ by the general public… then on the other hand we are not given the chance to work in some instances as we are not deemed ‘flexible’ enough or wanting a firm ‘career’. As Mother Pukka has awesomely campaigned in an ongoing trail blaze, it is the employers that need to be flexible. Her ‘Flex Appeal’ campaign has brought widespread media attention and even the ante ion of the government. You go girl! I feel though, that the flexibility of society is needed also in the corners that we think would be supportive of the working mother, the NHS. Yes… Im going there. Is society, and the NHS, really built for working Moms?
When I was asked to review the book ‘Women, Motherhood & Independence: A Guide to Financial Freedom, Confidence & Beauty after Birth’, I was immediately struck with wonder and awe at the concept behind it. It seemed perfectly in fitting with what I also hope to inspire in women through Rock and Roses Mama; that you CAN achieve success and still be an amazing Mama, it IS possible to balance YOU and your children. I was sent a little about author Penelope and felt a kinship on her mission in supporting women and mothers everywhere to succeed in their niche. When asked if I would like to Interview her also, I was even more pleased. So I am sharing Penelope’s, and my own, passions with you all in the hope it will inspire you to feel supported to go forth and achieve your dreams!