So lets just be honest here… unless you gave birth, became filled with baby, got engaged or married, been offered your dream job or anything of that joyful ilk… 2016 has been a pretty abysmal year for us all here in the UK hasn’t it? I mean Brexit… come on guys! What were you all thinking! Actually… for those who reside in the good ol’ US of A it has been even worse, at least we don’t have a clueless, fame seekingly obnoxious, orange clown leading our country down a dark, dark path of madness. The celebrity deaths and political insanity have meant that this year has been pretty rubbish to say the least. Only one good thing has come of this year, which has led to many good things…
I wanted to start posting roundups of our past months in pictures. So here is the first of my new monthly series: it is a good one to start with as Autumn has so much to offer a Mama (Who doesn’t love walking through a sea of spicy orange pumpkins and indulging in the occasional leaf crunch?!)
Ok… so hold your breath peeps… drums roll please… I did it! I am no longer a Vlog virgin. I never ever thought I would and didn’t think it was at all my thing but I quite enjoyed it. Not being able to edit or re-record certain parts is a terrifying thought when you begin… its all or nothing! But I had fun and really enjoyed answering these questions, so thank you to Charlie at Mess and Merlot for nominating me to answer Vogue’s 73 Questions, her Vlog for this is also her first and is super awesome and the reason I took the plunge to try it out for myself! Check it!
So without further ado…
In line with last weeks ‘Let it go Moments’, this week I have been long suffering with the common cold much like my previously ‘man flu’ afflicted partner. My second Elsa, break out into song on a mountain top, moment is one Im sure all parents of toddlers (or any age little cherubs for that matter – cherub is used very loosely here) will relate to; all eyes on you and what does the little one do? Commence a classic QUEEN worthy ‘I want to break free’ session of feral madness.
There has been some fervent debate surrounding Luisa Zissman, star of The Apprentice, because she posted pictures of herself sunning on holiday with friends on Instagram after leaving 11 week old and 6 year old daughters at home. The photos sparked some pretty awful judgements from mothers who deemed it absolutely despicable that she would even consider leaving her children to go on a holiday with her friends, especially as one of her children is still so young.
So I have always rambled on about how super important it is to spend time with your partner after you bring your little people into your world; and I mean one on one time, child free! It is essential to get back to basics as a couple and have some quality ‘adult’ time doing the things you love and enjoying each others company. This doesn’t have to be a huge feat, just a night out once in a while will do just fine!
So this week has seen every single on of the household ill at some point and have been busy bees with appointments left right and centre for dentists, doctors, health visitors etc… but on the plus side me and the Mr have now got a luscious whole week off together and are off to Manchester tomorrow for a mini break. Bliss.
I have to admit that this week has seen me quite emotional and therefore there are probably far… far more things I should have let go than I have done. I definitely feel like having at least the intention to let things go more and be mindful that if I don let more things go then in turn I will probably be blessed with a less stressful mind. Mamas are expected to deal with so much stress and just put a loving sweet smile on our faces; god forbid we act frazzled and exhausted!
So it has taken me a while to figure this out; this whole friendships after childbirth thing. I think I just always assumed that nothing would (or should) change with my circle of friends after I brought my little man into the world. I was wrong. It is a sad truth (bear with me… it gets better I promise!) that some people struggle to A. be around pregnant women and B. maintain friendships with women after they have children as they become ‘mothers’ and therefore cannot possibly go on nights out or have fun of any kind right?
I posted a while back about my epiphany to achieving serenity as a busy rockin’ mama and how I have started to adopt ‘let it go’ moments throughout my days to ease the building pressure that can erupt from the stresses of everyday life. Lets face it, we mamas are a busy bunch and if we can just take a breath, relax and ‘let it go’ from time to time I think it would ease our mental suffering! I have decided to share a few of my ‘let it go’ moments each week that have ended up becoming points of laughter instead the bubbling of a vocal volcano that could erupt at any given point!
As I have mentioned in previous *Musings* I have been known to become the occasional stress head. This was not always the case. Pre-Mamahood I was known to anyone who knew me as the ‘happy go lucky’ ‘hippy’ one; after I brought my little prince into the world everything that wouldn’t have bothered me previously suddenly seemed to be more of an annoyance to me.
I don’t know about you but I have found that after bringing my little man into the world I can become far more easily riled than my pre-baby, happy-go-lucky self. I have put this down to simply having more on my plate, or putting more on my plate, but are we making far more work for ourselves as mothers and creating unnecessary stress by placing the ideals of ourselves far too high?
Do we need to learn to occasionally ‘let go’?