Do We Scare ‘Mothers to be’ with Warnings Instead of Supporting Them?


After spending an afternoon wth my ‘very near to popping out a sprog’ friend, I realised that on reflection, society loves to inadvertently scare “Mothers to be’ with warnings and condescending comments about how terrible life will be for them after they give birth. This is definitely not right! I don’t think in all cases it is intentional and merely meant as innocent jibes. But these pokes of fun at a new Mother’s expense could really scare ‘Mothers to be’ and make them feel more overwhelmed that they actually need to be! We should be supporting them instead of poking fun surely? 

What Not To Say To Mothers To Be

We’ve all seen the long, extensive lists of ‘things not to say to pregnant women’ but I think that to be aded to those lists is all of the things that we say to ‘Mothers to be’ that are seemingly just ‘a bit of fun’ but could actually worry women more about there apparent impending nightmarish few months.

Ok… so if you’re wondering what on earth I’m rambling on about, I will in true ScatCat style “illuminate the possibilities” (Shameless ‘Aristocats’ reference there if any of you were amazing enough to get that!)

Sleep while you can!

Say goodbye to your social life

Sex just goes downhill after you have kids…

You’re not going to know what’s hit you!

Or if you are having a lovely night in or relaxing with friends during your pregnancy and someone hits you with…

Enjoy it while it lasts!

I mean… seriously?! Are pregnant women not already a whirlwind of hormones and emotions performing the miracle of life without friends and family inflicting seemingly banterous yet potentially, incredibly worrying thoughts?!

I am here to tell you that you CAN still be yourself and life your life after you have children and these people prodding fun at your expense should be supporting and surrounding you with compassion and a helping hand to assist you in doing so!

What annoying and scary comments did you receive when your due date was drawing closer? Have you ever said any of these to a ‘Mother to be’ and not realised the potential worry? 

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4 thoughts on “Do We Scare ‘Mothers to be’ with Warnings Instead of Supporting Them?

  1. An interesting blog post. I was given all of those ‘words of wisdom’ whilst pregnant – as well as people treating me almost like I had an illness – don’t do this, don’t do that! We should definitely be more supportive to mums (and dads) to be! #BrilliantBlogPost

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  2. You are so right! There are too many resources out there telling us about the negative…we should try focusing on how to handle the hard parts and enjoy the good parts.
    I recently had to sign a guest book at a baby shower. The best thing I could come up with was “Being a parent is just as hard as everyone warns you that it will be, and even more amazing than you can even imagine.” I stand by that statement.

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