So February has been month of waiting I feel… waiting for warmth, waiting for my wedding and ultimately waiting for Spring. Don’t get me wrong I have had some amazing opportunities open up for me in the last month and seen a spike in the support for Rock and Roses Mama which is so lovely to see; thank you all! February has also seen the most amazing weekend that I have had for a long long time, my hen weekend! So I am welcoming March and all it ill bring for this rockin’ lil fam and saying a final goodbye to February.
I don’t know about you and your fam but my lovely men aren’t much for exploration of local parks in the winter months; much like bears they tend to hibernate inside and then emerge when the crisp goes from the air and the days are brighter. The summer holds so much more for us in terms of the great outdoors but I have been determined to get my little soldier out into the wild and run free. So last weekend we went for a springtime explore of our local ‘Stanley Park’.
The all important entity that is ‘Mama Time‘; we all know how amazing it can be for us and how much it can ease our stress filled days with a little chill out, but do we set aside time for ourselves in our busy bee schedules? If we do set aside time, are we really doing something that is totally and utterly relaxing; that can take us to a place that is far away from the stresses of our reality? Well reading is the perfect getaway, so when I was asked to review fellow blogger Deborah Stansil from My Random Musing‘s new novel ‘The Mirror’ I jumped at the chance; a perfect excuse to get lost in a good book.
Ok so its the unspoken entity that visits us every month; it hangs over us like a shadow just waiting to make its arrival known in true hammer horror style. The Period. If it is completely normal and a monthly occurrence (thats pretty damn frequent) why is it so under wraps and so ‘hush hush’? Men tend to get all ‘icky’ when it is mentioned and when we are younger we are made to feel like it is a slightly, verging on, shameful entity. I think there was an advert for a film that I recently saw that showed a family telling the daughter to not talk about her ‘menstrual cycle’ and she was attempting to try and normalise it with them, and the son in particular. Personally I have, weirdly, grown to totally embrace the coming of ‘that’ time of the month and here’s my reasons why I think you should too.
So you want to know how to banish the stabbing Mom Guilt with some easy peasy and uplifting tips? I know we’ve all been there; we all as Mothers feel that horrifying pang of self doubt and guilt that we are not doing the best we can or that we are not doing things right. But what is ‘right’ and what is our ‘best’? Is it the ‘perfect Mummy’ image that we see so often plastered around television and magazines? Is it that we feel we don’t spend enough time with our children and we feel guilty for being working Mums or, god forbid, wanting some time to ourselves, going to work or wanting to eat our dinner/drinking our tea while it is still hot!? Parenting is super tough… it is hands down one of the toughest things about being human; bringing another life into the world and then teaching them everything you know and trying to ensure they are the very best human being they can possibly be. Thats an awful lot of pressure on us SO… *waves magic wand* here are some tips to save yourself from the guilt that plagues us all as Mothers.
I have previously mused, if you will, about my quandary with the whole ‘working Mom’ thing as I believe that we are pulled in all sorts of directions and made to believe and also made to feel guilty with all sorts of ‘Motherhood’ ideals. In one instance the government seem to want us to work and we undoubtedly get judged for being Stay at home Moms’ by the general public… then on the other hand we are not given the chance to work in some instances as we are not deemed ‘flexible’ enough or wanting a firm ‘career’. As Mother Pukka has awesomely campaigned in an ongoing trail blaze, it is the employers that need to be flexible. Her ‘Flex Appeal’ campaign has brought widespread media attention and even the ante ion of the government. You go girl! I feel though, that the flexibility of society is needed also in the corners that we think would be supportive of the working mother, the NHS. Yes… Im going there. Is society, and the NHS, really built for working Moms?
My little man loves a good book, so when I was invited to trial and review a new and upcoming app Ebookadabra, I was intrigued. It has been made my Moondog Books in partner with leading publishers like Disney, Harper Collins, Parragon and contains hundreds of books at the touch of a finger and great educational games and activities. I have tried different apps before with the little man and although initial interest was definitely there, it did fade at times. With Ebookadabra, however, as it is just a sea of books the small dude was captivated! Especially when he saw that it included his favourite characters from Disney movies such as Frozen, Finding Dory, Monsters Inc etc and stories we had read him at bedtime like ‘No Matter What’ and ‘Doing The Animal Bop’. This one is a winner.
After the amazing Utterly Feral’s instalment of #bloggybrides last week you should now have pretty much all you need to know to organise your big day… But as the fateful event of the ‘hen do’ looms and you think, what on earth shall I do? Well lets just say I had a pretty good idea of my perfect shindig on the smaller scale budget we had set for everyone (we had been invited to some pretty expensive hens and stags and decided that we didn’t want to put people in that awkward situation where they cannot afford it or get the time off work etc…) We agreed we would just do something relatively local… and for 24 hours. I had my heart set on a night out and then a spa afternoon the next day and started organising things when I was put to a sudden halt by one of my head bridesmaids; “WE will organise this for you…” Amazing. SO without further ado I invite you to be part of my gorgeous weekend… my ‘hen do’ adventures.
I am super excited to announce that the amazing Mom Of Two Little Girls has nominated me, after being duly nominated herself, alongside some gorgeous Mother bloggers. I thought I’d read it wrong when I saw it but no no… here I am writing about how humbled I am and that in my meagre 5th month of blogging it is super exciting to be gradually noticed by the awesomeness that is the blogosphere! SO… to pay it forward and keep the ball rolling… Im nominating another 15 rockin’ bloggers that deserve some recognition too.
This is the firm reason I started blogging in the first place and the purpose of my blog if you will; affirming in all Mommas that you don’t have to let parenting take over your life. You are your own fabulous person and you and your child and everyone around you will be amazed to watch you flourish and rock this parenting shindig while letting yourself shine through. Don’t let the label ‘Mom’ or ‘Dad’ take over ‘YOU’.
So I know there are a lot of you out there who don’t buy in to the whole ‘Valentines Day’ thing, and I have to agree that it is far too commercialised, red and plastic heart orientated; but there is some good that can come of its celebration. Love. And free chocolates of course! Now what I also know, is that you should show love and appreciation all year through; however what is the harm in having a day where you get the prerogative to just spoil yourself and your other half with some well earned adoration? Maybe you are trying to impress someone you are not yet in a relationship with, but are simply admiring. If your parents then it is vital to spend time as a couple, getting back to basics; Valentines Day provides a non excusable opportunity to reignite the spark! So if you need some inspiration… here is my favourite things to do and gift in my ONE… and ONLY (not now Chesney…) Rockin’ Valentines Guide.